Your Identity is Causing Suffering

KEY POINTS Our survival reactions and ongoing negative programming cause us to feel guilty and inadequate. The ego is dependent on others’ opinions, so it is incredibly fragile. We create our own “stories” about ourselves to feel better – it can’t and doesn’t work. As ego becomes more set in … Read More

Stop Fighting Unwanted Thoughts: Healing Happens with Calm

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  Objectives Thoughts interpret our physiology and are driven by it. Stress physiology creates unpleasant thoughts. Modern self-help processess are ineffective because thoughts cannot be controlled or reasoned with. By calming down and nurturing safety physiology, your body heals on its own. Quit fighting your thoughts, and nurture joy. Like … Read More

Understand RUTs (Repetitive Unwanted Thoughts) and Solve Them

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I am excited about my recent insights that have emerged from writing my new book on RUTs. It will be released in June 2026. The title is Calm Your Body Heal Your Mind: Transcend Pain, Anxiety, Anger, and Repetitive Unwanted Thoughts. I have seen some remarkable turnarounds that I never would have … Read More

Connect to Your Dark Side and Heal – Joy will Emerge

Overview Your survival reactions are meant to be deeply unpleasant, since they are protective danger signals. You have absolutely no control over them. Resisting strengthens them and fires up unwanted thoughts. As you train your brain to be less reactive to these unpleasant sensations, they will lessen. Creating “space” allows … Read More

Powerful Pain Relief-Schadenfreude or Altruism-Your Choice

Watching others suffer is a powerful way to alleviate one’s pain (schadenfreude). So is altruism – giving back with no expectations of a return. Why don’t we gravitate to Schadenfreude? Because your neocortex (thinking brain) has to come back online In 2019, Dr. Wang conducted extensive research, documenting that altruism … Read More

RUTs – Can’t Take Your Hand Off the Stove? Turn Down the Heat

Holding your hand over a hot burner triggers an immediate threat response (anxiety) and prompts action to address that threat. This sequence is part of the protective pain response known as the nociceptive pain system. Numerous danger cues activate this response. As your nervous system memorizes dangerous situations, this system … Read More

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