No More Being a Victim – Pay it Forward and Heal
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Being a victim is universal because we are victims. Life is challenging for all living creatures, including humans. We are competing for resources and a lot of behaviours are less than pleasant. Humans have an additional problem in that we have consciousness, which impacts us as much as physical threats, … Read More

The Ultimate Victim Role – Perfectionism
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Objectives Perfectionism is felt by many of us to be a virtue. It is reflected in terms of, “high standards,” “excellent quality,” and “strong work ethic.” It is actually a disguised version of anger directed at yourself. These ideas actually become translated our minds as, “not good enough,” “imposter syndrome,” … Read More

Choose Not to Be a Victim
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Once you have a clear idea of the depth of your anger and your role of being a victim, make a simple decision to not be a victim anymore. Write down, “I choose not to be a victim.”  Date it and put it in a place you will see it … Read More

Admit Your Victimhood
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IDENTIFY YOUR OWN VICTIM ROLE—IT IS UNIVERSAL What person or circumstance is upsetting me?  Be specific. Acknowledge that you are blaming that person or situation for making you angry. Write or speak out loud to yourself, “I blame ___________ for making me upset. Understand that you are now in the role of a victim. Write or speak that I … Read More

My Victimhood
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I was raised in an abusive household and living that life seemed normal because it was all that I knew. I was truly a victim, but I didn’t know it at the time. It was only through extensive counseling that I realized I was continuing to play that role. It is … Read More

Advantages of Victimhood–No one Believes You
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Without an obvious source of pain, patients eventually feel that no one believes that they have pain. It is an endless source of frustration and you are a legitimate victim. But, inadvertently, you are placed in a powerful victim role. The Cry of Chronic Pain Not only did I believe … Read More

Anger/Victim with Worker’s Comp
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There is a “genealogy” of frustration/anger. It is: Circumstance Blame Victim Frustration/Anger There are two types of “victimhood”: Perceived                                                               … Read More

“She Just Let Go”
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My migraine headaches began on the Fourth of July when I was five years old. By age fifty, I had over fifteen physical and mental symptoms from being in a state of sustained threat physiology. They became extreme and intolerable. I completely lost hope of ever regaining any semblance of … Read More

Your Hand Stuck Over the Stove
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I often encounter a perplexing situation: A patient experiencing severe chronic pain on my spine intake questionnaire rates him or herself as a zero on a 10-point scale with regards to anxiety, depression, and anger. They may have even undergone multiple failed spine surgeries. Yet upon further, almost intrusive, questioning … Read More

Psychology Today Articles
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Fear Can’t Be Controlled with Behavioral Suppression AI and the Cumulative Effects of “Trauma” Fierce Pain—Explained There Is an Answer to the Mental Health Crisis Connecting to Feelings: The Inverse of Pursuing Self-Esteem Popcorn Machines and Healing Repetitive Unpleasant Thoughts Quit Fighting Darkness; It Vanishes in Light Solving Repetitive Unpleasant … Read More

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