The Ultimate Victim Role – Perfectionism
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Objectives Perfectionism is felt by many of us to be a virtue. It is reflected in terms of, “high standards,” “excellent quality,” and “strong work ethic.” It is actually a disguised version of anger directed at yourself. These ideas actually become translated our minds as, “not good enough,” “imposter syndrome,” … Read More

Choose Not to Be a Victim
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Once you have a clear idea of the depth of your anger and your role of being a victim, make a simple decision to not be a victim anymore. Write down, “I choose not to be a victim.”  Date it and put it in a place you will see it … Read More

Admit Your Victimhood
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IDENTIFY YOUR OWN VICTIM ROLE—IT IS UNIVERSAL What person or circumstance is upsetting me?  Be specific. Acknowledge that you are blaming that person or situation for making you angry. Write or speak out loud to yourself, “I blame ___________ for making me upset. Understand that you are now in the role of a victim. Write or speak that I … Read More

My Victimhood
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I was raised in an abusive household and living that life seemed normal because it was all that I knew. I was truly a victim, but I didn’t know it at the time. It was only through extensive counseling that I realized I was continuing to play that role. It is … Read More

Advantages of Victimhood–No one Believes You
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Without an obvious source of pain, patients eventually feel that no one believes that they have pain. It is an endless source of frustration and you are a legitimate victim. But, inadvertently, you are placed in a powerful victim role. The Cry of Chronic Pain Not only did I believe … Read More

Anger/Victim with Worker’s Comp
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There is a “genealogy” of frustration/anger. It is: Circumstance Blame Victim Frustration/Anger There are two types of “victimhood”: Perceived                                                               … Read More

“Ritalins”
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I want to introduce you to Rita who holds the record in my practice for the longest time being in pain and breaking free. She had been suffering for 55 years and was still able to heal. Rita I met her in 2014, as a patient. She had been suffering … Read More

Create Your “Personal Business Plan”
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Objectives Most of us have become so used to solving problems and just making ends meet that we have lost sight of what we really want out of life. It is impossible to move forward without some idea of where you want to go. View you and your life as … Read More

Don’t Take on the World’s Suffering
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Objectives Many of us become upset about the state of the world, which is definitely worrisome and disturbing. However, you have no control, your nervous system is fired up, and there is not an endpoint. We all have plenty of problems that we have to deal with without adding on … Read More

Connect with the Life You Want
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Objectives It is easy to become focused on problems to the point where you forget what you really want out of life. Most of us complain about problems – our own, other’s, society’s,, and the those of the world. But what do you want? What is the vision of your … Read More

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